We all have that one person that we reference to when it comes to how we treat our relationships and that person broke our heart because they played us like a fiddle. What do you do because the next one gets the repercussions, and it is sad but true? That one person that you use to drop everything for and all you wanted was to be the light in their darkness because they were the light in your darkness. How do you move on without letting them destroy your future relationships? When it comes to love, it’s not always rainbow and butterflies, because sometimes it is a battlefield. They are the ones that treated you like a doormat, and wanted to see what they could get out of you before they threw you away. Do you sit and watch karma do its dirty work or do you move on not let it consume you because you just want to be happy again?
Let there be a lesson in all of the madness, because that person broke your heart but they did not break your spirit. You did all you could because you gave them pure love and they punished you for the same mistakes you are punishing your current relationship for. They were once hurt by someone and they only know how to hurt and need more healing than ever to show them that love can be good. Don’t let the skeletons of your past relationships ruin your future ones because you are afraid of history repeating itself. It is not saying that you need to be close minded and cold. You need to understand, you gave it your all and there may be feelings that still linger because you had the connection, but it was repeated to you that they did not feel the same or were not that into you. What you need to do is remember that you are stronger and the right love with come along that will show you that you are not a puppet, a doormat or a booty call. Even if that person did not know what they were feeling and took you for granted, just let it consume them to know that you did not let them take over your soul.
Here is my advice, no matter how many times they show up in your life because they always come back when they realize what you really mean to them, it is always too late. You won’t let them manipulate you, control you or use you. However, do not punish your current love for their mistakes, but also try to set different standards so that you are stronger. You don’t have to turn a blind eye because no relationship is perfect, but don't include the issues of your past relationship with your current relationships unless the current one turns out to be a similar jerkoff. It is best to treat each new relationship like it is fresh and new and they will show you what real love feels like and they do the opposite of what the other did not attempt to do. You weigh your pros and cons, if they come back and see that maybe they were not worth all the tears back then. You will find the love that will give you hope, dreams, and show you a love worth writing about.
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We have all been through a break up, whether it was mutual or if it ended bad, it can take a toll on us emotionally and physically. I can say I had a few and each was different, but at the end dealing with each break up was the same because I wanted to be happy again. Here is a video, there shows the science behind the break up and make it a little bit easier to understand how it really affects us and what to do to make it better.