Those light strokes of your lover caressing your cheek, shifting to your other side and waking up to the sight of the love of your life, cuddling on the couch, feeling your heart skip a beat, taking a stroll down the beach with your hands clenched together and gazing at the fading sunset, having a shoulder to cry on, embracing yourself into each other’s arms and feeling the comfort of their warmth, these are all the things that you think only happen in movies and novels. The thought of this just pumps adrenaline through your veins and stretches an enormous smile on your face. Little do you know that you can actually have that with anyone you choose to love?
The Hollywood blockbuster 50 shades darker, which was a sequel of another booming movie 50 shades darker, hit the theatres on valentine’s day and has warmed the hearts of many young and adult love-seekers for achieving the complicated but equally enchanting love story channeled by Christian Grey, a handsome business tycoon starred by Jamie Dornan, and Anastasia Steel, a petite college graduator starred by Dakota Johnsons.
Fifty shades of Grey might have been intense and stimulating raging arguments and debates regarding its specific content but the fact that many young lovers rushed to the cinemas at Valentine’s Day to cherish their love and enjoy a movie, that was probably a change in the palette for many romantic movie watchers but had jaw dropping moments that made everyone’s adrenaline rush, is undeniable.
But what many people question is that, can a love story this novel and complicated, but equally passionate exist between regular couples in real life?
The love story of Christian and Anna took quite a turn at the end of 50 Shades of Grey when Anna decides to leave him, but the sequel shows that Christian’s skeptical love for Anna proves true passionate love for her, the kind of love that inclines him to leave the things he loves just to win Anna’s heart. That excitement and that myriad of feelings that one experiences during those snuggles, sharing your memories, and experiencing different adventures is overwhelming and everyone desires to live those moments in their youth.
Nowadays the relationships in which many teenagers and young couples tend to commit in are not serious. People tend to run away from serious commitments and responsibilities, not knowing that the other person might be expecting or looking forward to something serious. As the general mindset proves, in high school, teenagers tend to look forward to impractical relationships so that they have a person to hang out with and call them their girlfriend or boyfriend because in high school, teenagers have not reached that level of maturity to know the true meaning of love and the depth of its dimension, nor do they want to take-up any responsibility of commitment because they want to live their youth to the fullest and when it comes to getting serious in a relationships, marriage is always a consideration and high school levels does not allow couples to think like that.
In contrast, there is a small number of teenagers that have a different perspective of dating and often end up marrying the same person they dated during high school. These are often exception that are do not go with the ‘cliché’ of teenage priorities.
Along with casual dating, there are many ‘young adults’ as well as teenagers that have been making use of a relationship term ‘friends with benefits’. This is not really a relationship but it involves friends interacting at the sexual level of intimacy while blocking all doors for emotion or love. Now there have been many movies made about this like “friends with benefits”, “no strings attached” and not surprisingly “Fifty shades of Grey”. These movies might have different scenarios in which bring about an interaction between the main roles and eventually using each other for benefits, but the plot twist of all such movies involves the main roles skeptically and unwittingly falling in love with each other.
Now, not everything that a movie portrays is a contrary of the reality. It would be fair to say that young adults that often tend to take dating not seriously can end up feeling emotions for each other. Oops! Looks like the doors to the heart weren’t fully closed, huh! This has happened in case of many couples, because it is human nature to cling onto affection and when you are in constant contact with someone, then you eventually start liking some of their gestures, and then all of a sudden you end up falling for them.
This might not be the case with teenagers but many young adults from the age of 20 to 30 have been experiencing such life changing phases. One reason for that is because many people think that at this age they are mature enough to take up the responsibility of a marriage and commitment which is why they might be in search for that ‘one’ person that they want to spend their life with. Which is why it being indeed possible for many young adults to find the kind of love just like that of Christian Grey and Anastasia Steel. Many people start with the concept of one night stands or a casual fling or if a perspective friends with benefits, it being the trend in many countries like the USA and UK, and if they connect with the other on the basis of something, they might end up falling in love and marrying which is going to happen in Fifty Shades series.
Although some movies might seem far from reality, they do target the events taking place in real life, hence the purpose of media, which is why any big fan of Fifty Shades should keep their hopes high up, because they might end up getting their own mesmerizing love story with the person they want to spend their whole life with.